Being a working parent is like juggling a dozen different balls at once. From managing a demanding job to volunteering at your child’s school, shuttling them to after-school activities, finding time for exercise, self-care, preparing dinners, and keeping up with appointments, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. I gathered a list of some practical strategies and with a dash of time management, we can successfully balance it all or at least try to make it less hectic.
1. Prioritize and Plan
The first step in achieving balance is to set clear priorities. Take a moment to identify what matters most to you and your family. This might include your job, your child’s education, your health, or quality family time. Once you’ve determined your top priorities, create a schedule or to-do list that reflects them. To us, this includes opting out of some activities during the week or on weekends to have more family time and get together instead of constantly running from one activity to another!
2. Efficient Time Management
Efficient time management is essential. Use tools like calendars, planners, or apps to schedule your day and stick to it. Allocate specific time slots for work, school activities, exercise, self-care, and dinner preparations. Having a structured plan will help you stay on top of everything. My motto has been: If it’s not on my calendar, it’s not happening. We also created a shared “family” calendar with a family email where all the school and kid stuff go to. Anything that is a related to the whole family also goes there so we’re all on the same page.
3. Delegate and Ask for Help
Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks when possible. Whether it’s enlisting your partner, family members, or hiring help for specific chores, sharing the load can reduce your stress. Remember, it’s okay to ask for assistance when you need it. They used to say it takes a village and we’re missing this village. I created my own little village with trusted friends I can lean on for various things or anything! And they sure can lean on me. It does make all the difference!
4. Streamline Meals
Cooking doesn’t have to be a time-consuming affair. Plan your weekly meals in advance, and some might consider batch cooking on weekends. Crockpot meals and one-pot recipes can be lifesavers on busy weekdays. Involve your kids in meal prep to make it a fun family activity. Honestly, my savior has been FreshPrep in British Columbia! If you use this link: you’ll get a credit of $42 (and I’ll get $15). I can’t explain to you the difference this made! We chose 4 meals a week for two people but found it enough for 2 and a 6 year old. It’s also healthy and takes away the planning of am I eating enough veggies, is my plate balanced, etc. As for cost, we found it better in terms of how groceries now have skyrocketed and we don’t need to go often to the store and therefore, don’t buy things we don’t need just because they’re placed on a certain shelf under a certain spotlight 😉 #guilty haha
5. Exercise with the Family
Incorporate exercise into family time by going for walks or bike rides together. This way, you can stay active while spending quality time with your children. Additionally, many gyms offer childcare services that can allow you to work out without worrying about your kids. Consistent short walks with the kids can also be the answer not only for exercise, but also mental well-being. Especially if you have easy access to a park or nature.
6. Self-Care Is Non-Negotiable
Don’t neglect self-care. You’re better equipped to handle the daily chaos when you’re well-rested and rejuvenated. Schedule “me-time” for activities you enjoy, whether it’s reading, taking a bath, or pursuing a hobby. A counselor might also be a good idea to schedule once a month. I take some of my me-time during “daddy-daughter” time! Win-win-win!
7. Say No When Necessary
While it’s important to be involved in your child’s school and activities or social gatherings, it’s equally important to know your limits. Don’t overcommit yourself. It’s okay to say no or take a step back when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Saying no or “maybe next time” is a good practice to prioritize yourself. Follow the trend of JOMO: Joy of Missing Out. lol
8. Embrace Technology
Leverage technology for convenience. Use meal delivery services, online grocery shopping, and educational apps for your child. These can save you time and energy. Knowing how you can benefit from technology and how to avoid its side effects is your best ally. For example: now while we watch Bluey (who doesn’t!), after every episode my kid tells me what she learned and o tell her what o learned. We use it as entertainment and a learning opportunity. and sometimes we connect it to daily life situations.
9. Carve Out Quality Family Time
Quality time with your family is precious. Make an effort to disconnect from work and screens during designated family hours. Create traditions and special moments that your child will cherish. Ours are things like a game (or two) of chess, movie nights, Lego, a walk, a visit to the library, etc.
10. Practice Flexibility and Forgiveness
Finally and most importantly, remember that it’s okay to have days when things don’t go as planned. Be flexible and forgiving towards yourself. Perfection is not the goal; balance and well-being are.
Balancing work, family, and self-care is an ongoing journey. It’s normal to have moments of imbalance, but by implementing these strategies, you can navigate the challenges of being a working parent with more confidence and grace.
Remember, you’re doing an incredible job, and finding balance is achievable with the right mindset and support. We’re in this together!